The question of how to get your ex-girlfriend back is so mainstream on the internet. I know because I found several blogs and articles regarding break-ups where men want to get their girl back. Most of these blogs and articles were written by men though and does not offer the points and views of women — which I believe is the real key to get them back.
How To Get Your Girlfriend Back?
We all know that men and women think differently in a lot of ways. Men find women complex, but to be honest, we find men complex too. Yes, we do! There really are a lot of things that we do not know and understand about each other and most often than not, these in-differences and misunderstandings lead us to decide that we are better off apart.
Most break-ups often come after that one burst of anger or that split second emotional pain. Once both of your feelings come back to normal, there is regret for the action made but pride kept you from getting back together. While some break-ups are carefully thought out and both partners calmly talk it out, emotions are still high. No matter the reason or how the break-up was executed, there comes a time when you wished and prayed that you should have stayed with her. You realized that you indeed love her but it’s a bit too late now as you already lead two separate lives.
I have asked and interviewed several women if they are still willing to accept their exes back in their lives if given the chance. Great news for you, guys! 80% of them said yes. Women are prepared to share their lives and hearts to you again. But it doesn’t come free. You need to pay for it not with material stuffs but more with time and effort.
Yes, time and effort. You will know if a woman is great for you and worthy of you if she is not that materialistic type of person. You may say that it is so hard to find a woman that is not materialistic nowadays, but that’s not at all true. You may think that way because it was you who pampered your girl with expensive bouquets, extravagant dinners and other luxury gifts. It’s true that we appreciate such gestures but most often, what really counts for us are the small things that you do like sweet little notes and just simply being there when we need you to be.
1. Give Some Time
Now, let’s talk about how to get your girl again. After a break-up, don’t go back… at least not yet. Give yourself and your girl some time to miss each other. In this case, you will have a time to reflect on your relationship and on things that might have resulted to your break-up. Was she too clingy? Was she too good for you? Did you lose interest on her? Or were you too over protective that she felt caged? The questions are endless and it goes on and on and on depending on your relationship with her.
2. Is She Really Worth The Change?
Once you have answers to these questions, determine if you are still willing to get back to her. If you change the things that she doesn’t like from you, is she worth the change? Or if she cheated but you still love her nonetheless, will giving her a second chance worth the risk? Once you are determined to get her back then you should work out on the changes one step at a time. Don’t rush. It is important that you take this whole process slowly because this will be your second chance on her. It’s either you score it or you screw it.
3. Reconnect Slowly
After all the reflection time and changes you have made on yourself, you are ready to meet up with her and show her the person that you are now. Re-connect with her slowly, you can ask her for a coffee or lunch. Just be casual. Don’t ask her for a dinner just yet because most dinners are intimate and you don’t want her to feel awkward. Even if you have a past, she’ll find it awkward to be with you in the same room. So take it nicely with her. We like men who are dominant (because we are naturally submissive) but sensitive to what we feel at the moment.
4. Make Her Miss You
Once you have established that connection again, you can ask her for another meeting but do not call it a date yet. Make her see the new you that she is missing. Make her want you again. Make her feel that you are still worthy of her love and no one can love her more than you do.
5. Apologize If You Have Done Something Wrong Earlier
When you can feel that she’s already at ease with you, tell her how much you miss her and how your memories with her kept you going. Trust me, she’ll be flattered and her heart will beat again. Though this is the start, it is not yet a guarantee that you can get her back. If you are the reason of the break up, apologize to her sincerely. Show her that you have changed and that you are ready to win her back. If it was her fault that you broke up, offer your forgiveness. Tell her that you understand her. Tell her that even if you were hurt before, you are ready to forget the pain and start a new with her.
If your girl agrees, that’s great then. But if she did not, try to woe her. Girls have soft hearts. We may get mad at our guys for a time but once we truly love you, we can’t resist you at all. We may play hard to get at times but that’s because we do not want to get hurt again. So there’s that one challenge for you, guys, to pass. You need to ensure your woman that you will take care of her heart and once she felt secured, believe me… you’ll have her for a lifetime.